Aisling Psychology & Counselling Dr. Willa Litvack Registered Psychologist © 2011 AISLING BY: NETMATRIX SEPARATION AND DIVORCE When you hear someone say (and we’ve all heard it) , that  “Divorce is just too easy these days.”  you can be be pretty sure that they are not speaking from personal experience. Those who have had personal experience know that  arriving at the decision to divorce is  anything but easy. Indeed, it is  difficult in so many way that couples are far  less likely to act prematurely than they are to hang on  longer than they should. Even when it the best course of action in the circumstances, divorce is a loss and, like any loss, it raises complex and often unanticipated emotions that take time to process.  Its involves  transition and adjustment at a multiplicity of levels that extends beyond the couple, certainly to their children, and often to others as well. For most, this process takes from one to three years, but individuals and families  can and do adapt,  recover,  and find themselves  happier, healthier  and even wiser. However, because this process involves change at a multiplicity of levels, and because individuals and families at different stages of the life- cycle stages face different challenges, there are numerous places where it can bog down or where outside expertise is especially helpful. Psychologists or counsellors can provide invaluable support and assistance with the emotional, interpersonal, and practical dimensions of  letting go of things as they were, of dealing with them as they are, and of envisioning them as they will be.